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Believe in ourselves

While I was listening to audio speeches of werner erhard yesterday, he quoted some poems of E E cummings, which made me curious to explore some of the E E cummings quotes with you, which might inspire you..

“We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch. Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”
E.E. Cummings


“Whenever you think or you believe or you know, you’re a lot of other people: but the moment you feel, you’re nobody-but-yourself.”
E.E. Cummings



The game of resistance !!

Paradoxically…we get more attracted some

…food when we are on fasting !

…sweet when we are diabetic or controlling food !

…irritation / anger …when we want to be calm..!

and if we closely observe…it is a game of resistance within our selves….and this creates more stress than anything else …!

what if I am in situation of eating, drinking, dancing, loving, without anger….at ease….it is a bliss…. but HOW ?

What is a “speech Act” ?… a source of performance

What is a Speech Act?

A speech act is an utterance that serves a function in communication. We perform speech acts when we offer an apology, greeting, request, complaint, invitation, compliment, or refusal. A speech act might contain just one word, as in “Sorry!” to perform an apology, or several words or sentences: “I’m sorry I forgot your birthday. I just let it slip my mind.” Speech acts include real-life interactions and require not only knowledge of the language but also appropriate use of that language within a given culture…. http://carla.umn.edu/speechacts/definition.html

What is most interesting is the utterance  of words alone is not creating the meaning…the background [ CONTEXT ] gives the meaning !!..so I am looking from the performance point of view…how does this matter ?

Who has the context ?….the initiator or the receiver…both…

we might have come across people who uses excellent vocabulary..but their utterance does not make an impact…because the context of initiator and receiver are completely different !.. so what is most important to achieve the performance ?……managing the context in which people take action impacts to a large extent…

that is why language is not only words, it is combination of so many things which include culture, circumstance,  peoples need and so on..the combination of which is a context…and becomes one of the source of performance …!! in terms of relationship, work, health, entertainment…








Conversations that produce results (3) !!

This blog is sequel to the following blogs and the last of the series




Moving to step 3 ~ Step 6

Performer responds to customer requests, the performer may accepts or decline, the most important aspect is “Conditions of Satisfaction” ,  if the conditions of satisfaction is not clear,  the intended results are not clear. [ How about when we communicate, we clearly communicate as requester or clarify the conditions of satisfaction before accepting the request ]

this leads to the commitment of both parties to fulfill the conditions of satisfaction. The word “commitment” means dedicated to cause !!  … When we are dedicated to fulfill the conditions of satisfaction, certainly there is an action and the action produces results, which results in greater performance.

When both parties requester and performer evaluates the results, which has met the conditions of satisfaction, what is left behind ?….. Satisfaction, Performance, fulfillment….

Look at this cycle of commitment in your relationship,work, happiness, expressing yourselves with others…

Have great conversations that produces results !!!





Conversations that produce results (2) !!


This blog is sequel to the above  blog


Moving to Step 2 in the above diagram…

Customer (Requester) : Is the customer is committed to his / her request ? if the requester is not clear with the intention or with what he/she wants to accomplish.. in the requesting stage itself there is a negative impact of performance !! (Example: Requesting for going to a movie together !!)

Performer(Responder): It the performer is capable enough or the right person to accomplish the request ?! (If no there is a negative impact on performance)

Action: what is the expected result here ?

Conditions of satisfaction : Mutually both have to come to terms on perform the action, satisfying both of them (Very critical), here if one of them is not satisfied, it becomes a force … we might often experience this in every day life like children getting ready to school or spending together time for the same activity etc.,

Time frame: Being very specific, when we are vague like tomorrow we can do…it is not specific, tomorrow what time…


While the above details about list of attributes a requester need to fulfill, a conversational speech which is the source of performance (producing results or initiating actions) comes to different forms or acts, called as acts of speech, classified into these categories..!

1. Declarations – Change the circumstance of reality. Example couple is declared as married. Declarations must be made under valid conditions, so that what people with authority say is always respected and anything that gets in its way is eliminated.

2. Commitment  – Commit the speaker to future actions (example – promises). Should be given when grounds can be supplied on request.

3. Assertions – Commit the speaker to the truth of an expression.

4. Directives (such as requests, commands, and advice) cause the listener to follow a requested action,  should be well articulated, with clear and complete conditions of satisfaction, and entail the commitment of the customer to make assessments as a customer.

5. Expression – Convey a speaker attitude or emotion !!



— when we talk about conversation that produce results, when we make a request, look at if the above elements of request is adhered, what kind of impact it will have on the performance? certainly there will be positive impact on the performance.

— what about listening – do we pay attention to the above elements of requests ? if we pay attention to the above elements of listening? what kind of impact it will have on the performance in listening ?!.. Look at relationship, what kind of impact it will have on the relationship ?

………..More about the conversations that produce results in the next blog…!



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